All of us have a need for somebody to understand and sympathize with us, but when you try to tell somebody about your situation sometimes they just don’t get it!
Imagine, you’re trying to tell the doctor what’s wrong with you and he just doesn’t understand what you are talking about. He just cannot feel what you feel. A minister friend of ours went to the dentist to get a tooth pulled. She tells the dentist which tooth to pull and he ends up pulling the good teeth and leaving the bad teeth in her mouth! He couldn’t feel her pain.
People can be unsympathetic sometimes. They can be insensitive to the needs of other people. Though not all government agencies are guilty of this, you can go to some and tell them your situation, the fact that you are in dire need of assistance — your rent is due, your lights are about to be turned off, your gas is just about cut off and you need some help; you are desperate and you don’t know where else you can turn — but because some of them have never had to walk in your shoes, they are unsympathetic to your needs and how you feel.
Some of you reading today are dealing with some stuff that nobody understands. Folks see you smiling but they just don’t see what’s going on inside of you! You say, “Well, I don’t want to talk to anybody because they won’t understand what I’m feeling; they have not felt the pain that I feel; they don’t know the hurt, the disappointment, the frustrations, the discouragement that I feel!” Nobody does! And so you are carrying a heavy load.
I have been there, when I felt like nobody else was going through what I was going through.
I wonder, have you ever felt lonely? In a world that is full of people, why would anybody feel lonely? We feel lonely because we don’t think that anybody understands our struggles sometimes. When you don’t feel like you can talk to anybody because they don’t understand you, it can put you on a island where you feel all by yourself. You would be surprised at the people who are battling depression because they keep things bottled up on the inside.
Community, everybody wants somebody in their life to understand them, somebody that they can relate to, somebody who really know and can feel what they are dealing with. First Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your cares upon the Lord; for he cares for you.”
You are not alone.
The Rev. George T. Ellis is pastor of Union Grove Baptist Church in Laurinburg.