Fathers need to listen and be patient as their children talk to them. A listening ear and a loving heart always go together.
“You took time to have me,” a child said to her father, “but you won’t take time to listen to me!” What an indictment. Fathers, we have the privilege of shaping our young boys to be young men. I believe that because of our position that we can speak life into our children; I really believe that.
I believe that a father can speak life into his daughter when he tells her how beautiful she is — that she is God’s gift to a man; that she is not validated by her sexuality but by her mind, her character, and in knowing that she is wonderfully and fearfully made (Psalm 139:14). If she hears this from her father regularly and he speaks this into her she might not fall victim to the first guy that comes along and compliment her, and tell her that he loves her just to get her to have sex with him.
Fathers, you build up their self-esteem. Tell your sons “I see greatness in you.” Tell them “I am so proud that you are my son.” They need to hear this from you. Let them see you at school; at band practice; Boy Scout meetings; anything they are involved in. Children tend to take on the personality of the person they are around — fathers, that person should be you. Fathers, your children did not ask to come into this world, you brought them here. They are bone of your bone; flesh of your flesh; they have your blood running through their veins; you have the power to speak into them life, and not death (Proverbs 18: 21b).
As we look on the television news our spirits are broken when we hear of all the bad news going on across America. We talk about it. The shootings at Sandy Hook School; Virginia Tech; the Movie Theater in Denver Colorado; the recent bombings at the Boston Marathon and others. I believe that a lot of this is a direct result of the home. When there is a father in the home, and in the place that God has called him then children grow up straight and strong.
Fathers, I pray, that you will turn this thing around.